Initially, I thought baby hated me smoking because she hates the smell of it... Hence, I promised her not to smoke... Even if i do, she won't be able to detect any smell of it... Her dad smokes too, moreover it's in the living room... That's bad, second hand smoking is more worst than first hand smoking... With this thought of mine, I will smoke in those areas where lots of smokers will be since first hand smoker is still better than second hand smoker... However, I am not those smokers who are hooked on... I'm just a casual/social smoker... I am being honest with her... Even when she didn't know I smoked and couldn't have any evidence of me smoking... When she ask, I would still tell her the truth that I still do smoke at times... If I lied, she wouldn't even know but I didn't... However, I realised baby cares for my health so she doesn't want me to smoke...

Just a while ago, baby and I chatted on the phone... She asked me whether I would really stopped smoking... But she said if I don't, she told me not to look for her anymore... She said that when I have made up my mind on not smoking, then I could call her or else she won't want me to call her anymore... Leaving me with only one choice, I must totally stop smoking... How?!?! What should I do? I'm just scared that I will accidentally take a puff while talking to my friends... She didn't even give me a chance to slowly stop even though I'm not addicted... Maybe after serving NS, I will totally stop smoking? STRESS!!!

I think I am a CONFUSEXUAL MAN... There's an article in CLEO September 2006 about it... 3 points that they talked about...
1. He's totally unmotivated about his career
It's not that he doesn't care; he's waiting for his big break to come. Most confusexuals are on the dreamy side - they want the hottest girl, the coolest gadgets, the greatest job. So if you're with an unmotivated slacker, hand him a dose of tough love. Point out no one will ever discover him unless he gets a real job, or look for a starting post in the right industry.
2. He hesitates to make the first move
You're sick of waiting for him to ask you out but he remains nonchalant. Confusexuals are risk-averse and prefer an "if she wants me, she can come get me" attitude. He's not incapable, just uncertain. Be the bigger (wo)man here. Tell him you're expecting his call or drop hints on restaurants the two of you should check out together. He should get the message.
3. He doesn't care about your future together
After getting together, the confusexual avoids all talk of building a future with you. He's actually just afraid that his marriage will end up in a divorce so he'd rather wait and see. But the M card will come into play eventually once he becomes more certain of the relationship and his career. In the meantime, enjoy the freedom. Travel, work on your career and earn the conviction that you are indeed The One for him.